From Effect Measure:
A study published in the journal Pediatrics followed 289 teenagers who said in 1996 they took a virginity pledge and compared them with 645 non-pledgers, taking into account religious beliefs and attitudes to sex and birth control…
Five years after taking the pledge:
- 82% of pledgers denied ever having taken the pledge
- Pledgers and matched non-pledgers did not differ in rates of premarital sex, sexually transmitted disease, and oral and anal sex behaviors
- Pledgers had 0.1 fewer sexual partners in the past year but did not differ from non-pledgers in the number of lifetime sexual partners and the age of first sex (Jennifer Warner, WebMD News)
There was one significant difference between the pledge and non-pledge group, however. They were less likely to use condoms or any form of birth control when they did have sex.
You can’t blame them. No one told them how.
(Emphasis mine.)
Abstinence-only sex education is one of our worst social failures. It’s a terribly short-sighted “solution” to what is only perceived as a “problem” by [predominantly religious] social conservatives. Its stated purpose is to prevent kids from having sex before marriage. That’s all well and good, but even then, what happens after marriage? Was anyone ever planning on teaching these kids — now adults — how sex actually works? How to enjoy sex safely and practically, without the looming specters of STDs and unplanned pregnancies?
Married couples have as much use for condoms and contraceptives as unmarried, even non-exclusive sex partners. Perhaps not so much with respect to health and safety concerns — after all, one of the chief benefits of sexual exclusivity is a drastic reduction in risk of exposure to STDs — but certainly with respect to birth control.
Or are we to assume even marriage does not confer the right to have sex for pleasure?
I’ve been a supporter of comprehensive sex education in public schools ever since I, myself, was still attending one. I recall raising the topic one day during a high school health class; it was the day they started peddling their abstinence-only bullcrap. The details elude me (it’s been seven or eight years now) but I do remember the general thrust of the counter-argument was that comprehensive sex education would lead to more teenagers having sex.
That’s probably true. And if so, we’d still be better off. Isn’t it better for 100 teens to have safe, responsible sex, than for even one teen to contract an STD or start (and be forced to follow through with) an unplanned pregnancy simply because they were denied this education?
That’s what our social conservatives are peddling: STDs and unwanted pregnancies (and God forbid you even mention an abortion) for many our nation’s youth, because their parents, community leaders, and state and federal governments are all too immature to discuss sex like adults. Instead, they’d rather insult the intelligence of our youth with childish games like virginity pledges, then bury their heads in the sand and ignore the damage their own immaturity is doing to society.